"Go on a date, they said..."
It got complicated quickly. You moved in. Then there was a pregnancy.
"We're not connected anymore..."
Going out for a movie on a Friday night: easy. Raising children: hard. Who has time for dates anymore?
"My partner had an affair..."
You thought everything was fine in the relationship, and then you intercepted that text message. Everything is not fine. You secretly go through your partner's email, feeling guilty when you start but more alarmed and angry as you read what's there.
"What child is this?
You thought potty training was difficult. He's 15 now and he has stayed out all night again. You've already taken away his game systems and grounded him for three years. And if you cancel his phone, how will you know where he is?
"We've decided to separate..."
You want nothing more than to be on different continents - but you have to talk, about the house, about the finances, and about the children.
My name is Carl. I am a Registered Psychotherapist and a Registered Marriage and Family Therapist. I help people to live better lives. I provide a safe and confidential place for individuals, couples and families to talk about their problems. I listen well. I have had over 20 years of experience in helping people with personal problems. I really enjoy helping people to tap into their unused strengths.
I work with individuals, couples and families. I help individuals with depression, anxiety, and other difficulties. I help couples with relationship problems who want to stay together and who want to be happier together. I help couples who are separated or divorced and who have to work together still as coparents. I help families with adolescent problems, and with children with ADHD or other disorders. I also teach marriage and family therapy, and provide clinical supervision to therapists.
I also offer hypnotherapy, where appropriate. Hypnosis is similar to mindfulness or focused relaxation. All hypnosis is self-hypnosis, really. I just facilitate it. Hypnosis involves intense focused attention, usually on some internal thought or bodily process (such as breathing). As you focus you will notice that your sensory awareness shifts internally. You may experience dissociation (of a healthy sort) where you truly are multitasking. One part of your brain listens to me while another part raises your arm or works on some internal problem. People under hypnosis are often less resistant, so that the therapy process moves faster. You won't do anything you don't want to do. I can't control your mind, or make you do something illegal. But therapy offered under hypnosis can be more effective.
Psychotherapy is now a regulated profession in Ontario. Marriage and family therapists supported this process. As a Registered Psychotherapist I am accountable to the College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario. As a Clinical Fellow and Approved Supervisor of the American and Ontario Associations for Marriage and Family Therapy, I bring expertise in healing relationships. I also teach marriage and family therapy, and supervise the practices of other relationship-oriented therapists.